About This Blog

I’m Bill Gary, a full time father, husband and graduate student living in Charlotte, NC.

There are few things more satisfying than making changes in one’s own life.  Losing weight, leaving a bad job, quitting smoking, perhaps moving to a new city…such changes are largely beneficial to and dependent upon the self–no one else can do it for you.  That self-focus is what makes this type of change both so difficult and so rewarding.

But making the change is really just the start.  The battle with one’s self, the battle within, is never really won.  Lose weight?  Studies show you’ll likely gain it all back in five years.  Quit smoking?  There’s an 80% chance you’ll smoke again.  Pay off all those credit cards?  Without a corresponding emergency cash fund, those cards will have balances again as soon as the unexpected arises.

Achieving one’s goal of change is not the end, just the end of the beginning.

In the last few years, I have sought and achieved massive changes in my lifestyle and behavior and in my own body.  In 2006, I was 50 pounds overweight, smoked more than a handful of cigarettes a day, ate like a condemned prisoner and couldn’t have run a block if I was being chased by a bear.  I had a long commute to a job I both disliked and sucked at doing.  I was miserable until I realized I didn’t have to be.

Since then, I’ve changed jobs–more than once actually and have now bailed completely and gone back to school.  I sold the house, bought another half as large in the city and ditched the commute.  I’ve lost more than those 50 pounds and now regularly run 15-20 miles per week.

Changes made: mission accomplished, right?  Not exactly, as you will see in the coming weeks.

The data above show that creating lasting change is not easy nor is it likely.  My question is:  WHY?

In this blog I’ll discuss my own journey as I seek to transform and direct my life.  I will also explore the issues surrounding personal changes, what motivates us to undertake these ‘self-renovations’ and the reasons we so often fail to maintain them.

Are we fighting our very nature when we seek radical changes?  Does this resistance to permanent change come from within ourselves or from our culture?  Which life changes ‘stick’ and what lessons can we apply from them?  Does success depend on sheer willpower and determination, or does it also require a profound, perhaps unattainable change in one’s own values?

Along the way, I hope to make you laugh and to think.  You’ll get to know me and I certainly hope I get to know you through your feedback, personal stories and observations.

Winter 2007

Fall 2009

  1. LogicalConsider
    October 4, 2010 at 9:51 pm

    Looking forward to this. And man it looks like it was cold in Chicago last fall.

  2. October 5, 2010 at 4:09 pm

    Thanks for sharing!! This will be great to follow!!

  3. October 6, 2010 at 2:20 pm

    Wow, keep going.

  4. pp09
    October 7, 2010 at 12:39 pm

    What a transformation, Bill. In so many ways!

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